Q • For the most part during this pandemic, I’ve been the one to work from home while my husband has worked outside the home. We have four kids and I have put much effort into trying my best to help them and provide support for home learning. I’m exhausted and getting angrier by the moment. He thinks because I don’t have to get dressed and travel to and from work that I should be happy in the current situation. How can I get him to understand that he can at least help out in simple ways that would make a big difference for me personally as well as in our relationship?
From a reader • I can think of a couple of suggestions. Write down everything you do during the day, showing the times and have him read it. (Make sure he actually reads it.) If possible, have him work from home a couple of days so he can see just how stressful it is. If neither of those works, stop cooking, cleaning and doing laundry. When he gets home you are off work, too. — Linda Jacobs in Port Angeles, Washington
From Jodie Lynn • In today’s society, your situation is pretty commonplace when one parent is carrying most of the responsibility of staying home with the kids and trying their best to muddle through homeschooling. You have extra juggling and time constraints while also trying to work from home.
It’s time to talk with your husband about your concerns without the kids around. If you feel like shouting and arguing and blaming, put it off until you can calm down.